Hello, I’m Calikay Vashou

People often ask me, “How do you do it?” This is how —

I’m a lone parent (aka: the other parent is a deadbeat) to 5 kids — two wonderful boys and three super sassy girls. My oldest child has Autism. My youngest two are 8 years old identical twins. They’re my world and I’m their magical unicorn. Our daily lives are filled with many challenges but nothing beats what happened to us.

For years, we lived in a very dark place — literally. The window curtains were always drawn down and the windows were always locked. The man who claimed to love us spent years abusing us. To the outside world, we were the perfect happy family. Behind closed doors, we walked on eggshells and lived in fear.

After countless nights of pure horror, days of torments, and a visit to the ER for a mental breakdown, I finally found the courage to secretly packed my things and move out of state with my 5 kids. With no job, very little money, and only faith, I had to rebuild my life from the very bottom of the shit hole. 

Today, my kids and I live in a beautiful town in northern Wisconsin. We’re slowly healing but still battling CPTSD. When I think back to those dark days, I still kick myself for being so broken that I couldn’t protect my babies from their abusive father. When he gets angry with me, he would often take it out on my kids. He told me it hurts me more if he hurts the ones I love. 

During my 2 years out of the shit hole, I spent a lot of time working on myself — physically, mentally, spiritually, and financially. I did a complete Life Experience Design. It took me a long time to feel comfortable welcoming new people into my life. My healing process was very hard. No one around me could understand the destruction inside of me and flying monkeys were everywhere, constantly attacking me, while I was trying to raise 5 kids alone.

It’s been almost 5 years since I left the worst part of my life. I’m very happy now. I made new friends, started a community for domestic abuse survivors, found real love, and created a business to give me the flexibility to heal, grow, and thrive with my babies.

What I will share with you here is how I’m surviving and what I’m doing to overcome issues in my life. You will discover life-changing confessions and supportive resources to help you become whole again after trauma.

I’m not saying it’s going to be easy. It’s extremely hard but you’re not alone. Remember that toxic people only pick the best to break down so they can feel better about themselves. They are what I like to call, “bottom-feeders” and “fucktards.”

You’re not crazy or stupid. You’re an amazing person with a good heart. Start inhaling positive energy and exhaling negative energy out of your life with me. You’ll find that there is a rainbow after the storm.